I'm posting my dilemma here, because I pretty much have nowhere else to turn to in real-life regarding this matter. Not my friends, my colleagues or family.

I am currently hopelessly in love with the girl of my dreams. She's beautiful, playful and everything that I can ever ask for. For some reason only God knows, she can endure the crap I fling around and somehow fall for me too.

The problem is I'm born in the year 1990, and she ; 1987. 3 years of difference. She's 20, I'm 17. We both feel like we're running away like two kids in a fantasy, but yet we still have to face the reality of people going "Tsk, tsk" when they find out I'm younger.

Just today at her workplace I turned up to say hi (her workplace is five minutes down the road from mine). Immediately after I left a colleague who was with her told her, you know, that she shouldn't be doing this, that she should be going out with a more mature guy, blablabla.

I don't blame people gawking at us. But we can ignore it only for a certain while but we both have to face up to reality sometime in the near future. We still very much want to be together, the only problem is how do we deal with this discrimination? Why do people find it so taboo still in this day and age?

Love, God bless it, should know no barrier.


 
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[Dr. Phil]
What you're seeing right now will diminish with time.  The reason people see the age difference so clearly right now is because of your relatively young age.  You're 17, she's 20.  If you were 20, and she were 23, most people wouldn't notice.  My wife and I got engaged when I was 19, and she was 21, and no one fussed about it at all.  I think that when you hit 18, you won't see much about the age issue brought up.  Some might think me old-fashioned, but I still believe that turning 18 means something, both to you, and to those around you.  It can change how people look at you, and yes, make a difference in the feedback you get from this relationship. 

Bottom line, my advice:  If you can handle the flak you're getting from family, friends, etc..., then by all means, go right ahead.  If not, wait a year, or a few months, depending on how far you are from 18, then try again.  If you both are serious, that shouldn't be a problem.
[/Dr. Phil]

Whoa....that's pretty scary.  Somebody hit me the next time I do that.  :P


 
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--Am

Look inside yourself and do what you feel is the right thing to do. As long as you do it for the reasons that you feel are true and pure, rather than for the aesthetics, then your love will be an impenetrable fortress for the both of you.But heed this, should one party choose the road of the pure and true and the other of the aesthetics then, a crumbling ruin will be created.

Allow not the influence of others to guide your heart and avoid the logical perspective of yourself. In a matter such as this, the best guide is your emotional fortitude that will quit you to the realm of happiness and faithful wealth.


Was that too much? Yeah, I think it was...hope it helps.
 
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*DarkDragoons*


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/me wipes a tear from his eye.

Nah just kidding

But seriously in the end it doesnt matter what everyone else thinks. As long as you love her then a bit of 'flak' is worth it.
 
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"Im going to make him an offer he cant refuse"
"Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer" Godfather

I think we've missed the real question, myself included.  Hashi, you know what you want to do.  You just want to know how to deal with the baggage or side effects of your decision, right? 

[Dr. Phil]
If you're dealing with friends and family, sit them down, either in a group, or one by one, and have a heart to heart.  Let them voice their opinions/concerns, then politely, but firmly explain what you are going to do, what led you to your decision, and what you'd like them to do (ask them to be supportive, positive, or atleast to act normal).  If you approach this in a mature fashion, it might go a long way towards changing people's opinion/perception of you.
[/Dr. Phil] 
 
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oh Im making slow headway, you know shes more experienced in relationships
 
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He will give them death, and they will love him for it -Gladiator

TRP/CPL_Rogueboy/3SQD/1PLT/1COM/1BAT/1RGT/VEA/VE [LoR][ES-FirstClass][CDS]

I catch almost no flak for my relationship, which is odd because I'm 14 years old and a high school freshman.  However I'm going out with 17 year old who's a senior at the very same school.  *Cough* Roos *Cough* *Cough*

What I can say is: just go for it, don't let anyone tell you not to do something.  The one thing that I honestly believe is that people should be able to do whatever they please as long as it doesn't bother those who don't deserve to be bothered.
 
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{THE POPE}

Aye, the younger usually gets serious props, but the older gets that much flak, believe me I know. however the younger one often has a concern about the older getting shit for the relationship.

I agree that it is RIGHT if you feel it is. And there is no other qualifier. Don't doubt your own conviction. That is what kills. But you have to find your own ways to deal with it, which is sometimes hard, but you have to remember that you can only feel your own emotions, and you can't doubt those emotions, emotions somehow exist free of the bias of thought. Other peoples emotions can't always count because you can never tell the validity of such emotions. Also the way you are precieved to consider the relationship is how other people will consider it. If that makes sense, i've had enough drinks now that I'm not entirely sure if I make ANY sense anymore.

Well, atleast that's something of how the Snipeth works. Really 17 and 20 isn't bad in anyway.
 
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Stultior stulto fuisti, qui tabellis crederes!

After reading all of your various advices and opinions, I have to say I have chosen to adopt a specific attitude to deal with my scenario.

"F Off if you have a problem with it. Kthxbye."

Go me.

Cheers.

edit - And uhh my seventeenth birthday falls on the ninth of February.



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